More then phone sex, the Peck & Call Girls provide erotic communication and companionship, sex therapy, and flirty GFE fun via phone, chat and text.

The subject of intimacy substitution or replacement often comes up in what we do; after all, if we profess to offer companionship, intimate encounters not merely “wank material,” aren’t we some sort of substitute for the intimacy of marriage or other primary romantic relationships?

There are dangers in long-term reliance on the type of companionship we offer — if this shared intimacy fills an empty space in such a way that it replaces rather than enhances the intimacy of the primary relationship. The same can be said in cases where a person replaces the “hole” in their relationship with food, work, time spent blogging or on the Internet, community involvements, participation in dart league down at the local bar, or even their own children. Most folks, outside of professionals, wouldn’t consider those things as potentially damaging to a relationship as phone or virtual sex, but they can be. Perhaps even more so, as those non-sexual activities seem to be less threatening to couples’ intimacy, and therefore often go on forever unnamed, unaddressed…

Perhaps it’s because things considered to be sexual or erotic come with the presumption of infidelity — if not also too-quickly labeled ‘addictions’ too — that people are so assumptively concerned. But anything that replaces intimacy in a relationship threatens it.

And you don’t even have to be a certified therapist to see how, once it’s pointed out to you.

If a person participates in a hobby — reading, blogging, bowling — to the extent that they have their own identity and feel good about themselves, being happier in their relationship, we’d all agree that’s a “good thing.” Even if their partner would share their interest in the activity, everyone needs time alone for themselves or within their own circles of friends for their own sanity. We all know about how an individual’s high self-esteem means they feel more confident, more sexy, more willing to be intimate in physical and emotional ways.

But when the hobby or activity becomes the only place a person is happy, if the activity replaces intimacy with a partner, well, that’s another situation entirely. It doesn’t matter then if it’s a hobby, work, shopping, or the role of parent.

So why should phone sex or other forms or erotic entertainment be so different?

So, we are the ones who entertain his organs, the mighty grey one called the brain and the one between his legs, allowing him to have his own identity and feel good about himself in a sexual way — so what?

Often, those clients who are married or who are in relationships have tried to get their fantasies met in those relationships — but are not able to. It’s not (always) the old “my wife doesn’t understand me” (although sometimes that does exist), but that the spouse just isn’t turned on by what they are. Much like couples who do not share all the same political views or tastes in books and films, it is not mandatory that each half of the couple share all the same sexual fantasies. Just as his vote for President may cancel out her vote, just as her bookshelves may be filled with mysteries while his are filled with histories, they each can have special erotic fantasies the other does not share — and without any risk to their relationship. We are a client’s more interactive “choose your own sexual adventure” story, his pals who are willing to discuss the taboos his wife will not, we are the outlets that he plugs into (metaphorically!) to recharge his sexual batteries so that he does not grow in resentment, shutting down emotionally, limiting his intimate connections to his partner.

We take great pride in the fact that our companionship services enhance relationships. Emotionally and physically. (More on that last one another time.)

Unless a client opts to view us, or use us, as a replacement for true intimacy in his primary relationship, phone sex, virtual sex, masturbation, erotic companionship is no different or damaging to a relationship than a night out bowling with the boys.

Loneliness leads to health problems: higher rises in morning levels of the stress hormone cortisol, altered gene expression in immune cells, poorer immune function, higher blood pressure and an increased level of depression. Loneliness also is related to difficulty getting a deep sleep as well as a faster progression of diseases, including Alzheimer’s. Those things alone can affect a man’s ability to become aroused. But there’s more.

John Cacioppo, lead author of Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, says, “Loneliness not only alters behavior, but loneliness is related to greater resistance to blood flow through your cardiovascular system.”  Obviously, poor blood flow is going to affect a man’s romantic flow.

But, in case you think our delight in making men erect via phone sex, fantasy chat, and our other services has us biased past reason, you needn’t just take our word for it. *wink*

According to Dr. Rufus Green Jr., M.D. FACS, a Urologist with the RHD Memorial Medical Center, the St. Paul Medical Center, and the Centennial Medical Center, the majority of impotence cases not only have a physical cause but it’s likely a vascular or blood flow impairment in which changes to the flow of blood into the penis (called cavernosal arterial insufficiency) or impedance of blood flow out of the penis (called corporal veno-occlusion) result in impotence.

So, if loneliness negatively affects blood flow, it’s very likely to blame for your erectile dysfunction. And that creates a cycle of unhappiness, impotence, stress, embarrassment, and, therefore, additional loneliness. Such loneliness and isolation is often compounded when your sexual fantasies aren’t understood or accepted — or at least your loneliness and fear make you feel that way…

Once again, we suggest our understanding and arousing companionship, via the phone, messages, texts and chat.  We’re here, at your beck and call, ready to listen, entertain, connect with you… There’s no pressure and no need to feel alone.

Yes, Secondhand Rose does create custom erotica!

Currently, her rates for personalized stories are:

Stories under 2,000 words: $39
Stories under 4,000 words: $79
Stories under 6,000 words: $119

However, August 1, 2011, her rates will increase as follows:

Stories under 2,000 words: $49
Stories under 4,000 words: $89
Stories under 6,000 words: $129

This, my friends, is due to the increase in demands for her wonderful stories!

If you’re not familiar with Rose’s lovely, arousing, stories, here are some samples:

Warm Wet Velvet
Of Cold Dark October Nights
Clif & Lydia Drop Over The Edge

Contact her to discuss your own custom story ideas — or to make an appointment for her to create a live erotic story with you over the phone!

We are pleased to announce that the fabulous, famous, lingerie blogger A Slip Of A Girl is bringing her special blend of teasing, pleasing, frilly thrills to Peck & Call Girls!

Lingerie lovers and fetishists — especially those who love classic and vintage lingerie styles — will adore her own fascination with all those little intimate lingerie details…

Crossdressers, be it fantasy or fact, erotic or just an understanding chat, she’s welcoming you into her silky nylon and lace embrace too.

You may find our more about A Slip Of A Girl in her NiteFlirt profile, where you may also contact her to schedule some charming time together.

In his book, Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies, Kahr notes that Freudian therapists believe that sexual fantasies develop “as both a means of gratifying wishes and of conquering intrusive memories of early traumatic experiences,” achieving what Kahr calls “equilibration of the self” as the sex fantasies are used to master or diminish the things which haunt the psyche.

Think what you will of Freud and psychotherapy, but we think there’s something to this… Even if you haven’t a trauma to conquer.

In fact, many of our sexual fantasies are about creating traumas and other things to conquer, if only in that scene. It’s been our collective experience that things which scare us often thrill us, that demons can be subordinated to the slight of hand of masterful masturbation, and even just a plain old bad day is often made better with some erotic fantasy.

Interesting how the most twisted things balance us out, isn’t it? *wink*

…Maybe we need to change our motto to Peck & Call Girls: Let us help you achieve your equilibration of self in the most gratifying way.

Every year around this time we notice a surge in a specific form of taboo fantasy play — and this year is no different. It might even be a bit more popular this year… It’s difficult to say because we don’t plot points on charts. *wink*

In any case, the taboos of which we are speaking (and typing!) are based on religion.

Subjection of (or by) nuns, sexual crucifixions, forced feeding of forbidden foods, profane displays on alters, rosaries replacing anal beads, conversion by conquest, ritualistic pagan worship, chastity for lent, supervised masturbation resulting in defiling religious artifacts, enslaved servitude to those in other religions, confessions — and penances-O-plenty for all!

All sorts of blasphemy towards holy personages, religious objects, stories, icons, customs, and beliefs. Seemingly prompted by this time of year — which, while religious for many, is less dominated by the plethora of holiday celebrations found at the end of the calender year, leaving many with time on their hands to seek our services.

Erotic fantasy play based on religious themes is a little understood, little acknowledged, form of arousal. Especially, it seems, when it comes to phone sex.  But we Peck & Call Girls understand transgressive sexual fantasies quite well… And we’re quite popular for our understanding and manipulation of it.

Like many sexual taboos, those built upon religious themes explore and twist, play and prey, upon those things we find most sacred.

Yes, we said “sacred,” as in sacred ass play, sacred small cocks, sacred spankings, and so on. Maybe you’d be more comfortable discussing this in more familiar terms, such as fear and guilt. But we don’t see such sexual fantasy in purely negative terms; there’s light to balance out the dark, good with the bad, redemption with the irreverence. In the words of poet Eli Clare, in Exile and Pride: Disability, Queerness and Liberation, that these taboo fantasies “mark the jagged edge between self-hatred and pride.”

That’s all erotic religious fantasy really is; just another way to work it all out.

Fantasies, even those shared with another, are just thoughts, not deeds. Thoughts are not actions — they aren’t even representative of a change in or lessening of belief. It’s just another way to mentally, emotionally, spiritually wrestle with the jagged edges, the bigger issues. And the relief such wrestling brings is bliss…

Not just to explore and return more devoted to whatever it is you believe in, but to release the sexual tension that comes, literally, from such wrestling play is, well, heavenly. Your chalice runneth over! *wink*

If you desire some desecration with your dirty discourse — or just want to explore the concept of erotic religious taboo play more, give us a call.

PS The full quote from Eli Clare is presented below. We believe the liberties we’ve taken in expanding it here is fair, but we also believe in being accurate and do not wish to put words or concepts in the mouths of others.

I think of the words crip, queer, freak, redneck. None of these are easy words. They mark the jagged edge between self-hatred and pride, the chasm between how the dominant culture views marginalized peoples and how we view ourselves, the razor between finding home, finding our bodies, and living in exile, living on the metaphoric mountain.